How To Ask For A Coffee Chat? (Without Feeling Awkward)

By now, you have probably heard many people telling you to build your network, but how do we ask for a coffee chat without feeling awkward? 

Everyone stresses how networking is the key to landing your next dream job or building a professional network. Building a network is essential, especially as a recent graduate, as it can lead to future opportunities. 

What is a coffee chat? Well, it's a simple term for a networking call. You can have these calls virtually, by phone, or even at a coffee shop with the person you want to connect with.

When these coffee chats are successful, they can become a lifelong connection in which you support each other. 

Mastering how to ask for a coffee chat is genuinely an art. Let's dive in! 

Understand your Purpose

Before asking for a coffee chat, you need to understand your purpose.

As a recent graduate, you may seek advice on breaking into the marketing field or guidance on navigating the early stages of your career.

A clear purpose will help you structure your request and show the other person how genuine you are. 

A clear purpose will help you structure your request and demonstrate sincerity.

Whether you’re seeking career advice, mentorship, or a job referral, knowing your goal will make your coffee chat meaningful and guide your questions. 

Identify the Right People to Reach Out To

Before touching on how to ask for a coffee chat, it's important to recognize who to ask. 

Start leveraging your current network – university alumni, LinkedIn, or connect with those from previous internships or jobs.

Alums are generally willing to help recent graduates, and people in entry-level roles can offer advice aligned with your current situation. 

If you are connected with someone on LinkedIn who knows someone you would like to be introduced to, then there is nothing wrong with asking for a connection. 

Networking exists mainly through referrals and introductions; people are typically happy to support them. Be clear about why you would like that connection; don't take it personally if they decline. 

That said, feel free to contact individuals in higher positions. You never know who is willing to help. 

It's important to focus on asking for a coffee chat with individuals whose experience resonates with your career goals. 

Crafting your message 

Now that you have found someone, let’s talk how to ask for a coffee chat. Crafting your message to sound authentic and personable is important! 

Take a look at their LinkedIn page and recent posts. There may be an interesting topic or something inspiring to mention in the message. 

Understanding how to ask for a coffee chat can impact your ability to build genuine professional connections. Refining your approach can turn a simple request into an opportunity to create lasting relationships. 

Now, it's time for examples! 

For someone in the same company: 

Hi [NAME], my name is [NAME]! I am a fellow employee and recently graduated with a business degree. I wanted to connect with you about your career in marketing as I want to pivot into this field! 

This type of message is excellent for someone who works at the same company. Recently, a conversation with a colleague from the corporate space provided valuable knowledge about navigating the industry. It was a reminder of how sharing ideas and perspectives helps everyone grow.

For someone in a company you want to work at or stay connected with: 

Hi [NAME]! My name is [NAME]. Nice to meet you ✨Your career path from [PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE] to Social Media Manager at [COMPANY] is incredibly motivating! I'm an aspiring marketer, and I'd love to connect and follow along on your career journey.

These approaches have been successful for others and can be adjusted as needed. While responses aren't guaranteed, and some outreach may go unanswered, persistence is key!

Be flexible when asking for a coffee chat and show that you are willing to accommodate their schedule. Remember to keep a friendly yet professional tone. 

Need more examples of how to ask for a coffee chat? Check out Networking on Social Media: 7 Steps to Building Meaningful Connections and these ten best templates for LinkedIn requests to find alternative ways to personalize your message! 

Now it's time for the Chat!

Coffee chats are fantastic for building your network; you want to make a good impression by coming prepared. 

Luckily, you have access to unique questions from Sky Society's blog. Check out the Top 10 Enhancing Questions to Ask in a Coffee Chat. These questions are a great first start! 

Now that you have done your research on the individual. Lean into curiosity and why you wanted to have a coffee chat with them in the beginning. This way, you can create a genuine connection, which can open doors for you in the future. 

Also, doing your research allows them to be open to sharing their experiences with you. Respecting their time, professionalism, and expertise is key to a successful coffee chat. 

Nurturing relationships are important. Remember, it's a two-way street. 

After the Chat 

After the chat, send a thank-you message expressing appreciation for their time and insights. Remember to write one major takeaway that resonates with you to express that you truly valued their time. This touch makes your message meaningful. 

If you feel the coffee chat went well, stay connected by messaging about industry news or occasionally grabbing lunch if you live nearby.

Most people love genuine messages. Staying in touch, even sporadically, can nurture the relationship for future mentorship. 

Conclusion 

Let's recap on how to ask for a coffee chat! 

Remember to find a common ground. 

• Finding something in common to build a connection around feels much more comfortable. Sometimes, you play a long game, so you may not get immediate results. 

Think of coffee chats as long-term connections. 

• Networking is about more than instant results. It's about building genuine connections that grow over time.
  If you approach coffee chats solely for personal gain, you may miss out on more profound and valuable relationships. 
• Networking lies in mutual exchange, supporting and guiding each other, taking the time to understand each other's journeys, and sharing experiences.
  Playing the long game creates a foundation for opportunities that may occur in the future rather than focusing on short-term achievements. 

Remember, networking is about planting seeds for meaningful relationships rather than harvesting immediate benefits.

Happy Coffee Chatting! 

✍️ Written by Shakita Samuels